The essence of religious life is a pilgrimage to leave the house of slavery to the promised land. The pilgrimage was not taken alone but together with the sisters in the community (cf. cons. Pp. 23, al. 1). Thus the mental attitude and the skills to be a mutual good companion sister and right in order to achieve the objectives needed.
Helping relationship is one of the important topics in the process of ITL, in which participants learn not only in theory but practice directly the clients and accompanist. The purpose of this topic is to help participants learn to accompany and be accompanied in the pilgrimage. If someone has good experiences as the person being accompanied , he will be able to be a good companion. Similarly, if someone ever experienced escorted to a destination, it can be a guide for others.
There are 3 steps that must be prepared by a client, an effective guidance. The three steps include: describing the situation of what happened and how the state of the client in the situation, make topography of the problem, clearly stating the precise problem that she wish to explore during the guidance process. When a client prepares well, the discovery itself becomes sharper and spiritual life will flourish. Good client should be able to listen attentively during the counseling process. He will experience how wonderful listening intently because he can catch ideas with sharp and new ideas for the growth of spiritual life. Client is the main character that determines the quality of a guidance. As a client also must believe in the capacity of a companion to help find a way out of problems or sharpen her discovery.
Two disciples on the road to Emmaus, finding the right a companion so they returned to Jerusalem. To be able to accompany appropriately, it must have the following basic attitudes: listen deeply, non-judgmental and benevolence , trusting client, sympathy and affection , be genuine. However, appropriate guidance starts from listening. As a companion must first be able to listen deeply. This meant he had to pause to listen deeply true voice from her inner being what is alive in the client.
Each person actually has the capacity to be an accompanist to the sisters of the community. So too there should be the necessary willingness and openness heart to be accompanied by a sister in the community in order to undergoing pilgrimage as Sister of Our Lady. Because helping relationship is personal encounter of two hearts, they equally grow in the spiritual life and quality of the depth of the relationship. Thus a personal relationship with each other in the community will be more deeply.
